A poética da resiliência em família: vozes de dor que narram a beleza da superação

Abstract

This study is based on a family environment affected by a conflicting marital relationship and where the development of their children occurred. The research intends to understand suffering as an opportunity to rewrite lives by supposing that the poetic attitude favors human transcendence. This way, it looks for understanding the resilient behavior of these children, one brother and two sisters, their motivation, personal and/or collective, internal and/or external resources that were employed by them. It is a qualitative study using autoethnographic method. This scientific exercise took place through sensitive listening and introspective reflection about the narratives in order enhance the expansion of their self-awareness to understand how they promoted the children´ resilient performance; what motivated them; which internal or external, personal and/or collectives’ resources were used. The autoethnographic method promotes the dialogue between subjectivities by hearing, understanding and interpreting the multiple voices from the perception of the analyst which is inserted in the context of the observation and part of it. This research was designed as follows: listening to the life histories of the survey’s participants; interviewing the brother and sisters about how they figured out their experience about the their parents daily disagreements; asking about how they overcame, or not, the stress caused by the relationship of the couple; sketching out the different forms of understanding, expressing and facing suffering, examining individual and collective courses of suffering signification, healing strategies, resistance, or yet, the reconceptualization of the own family social position. The participants were the children of the family, locus of the investigation. The instruments were: narratives about their life histories, individual and collective interviews during family meetings. The register of the information is available in field diaries. The analysis and interpretation of the facts resulted in the following comprehension: the brothers believed that they developed resilience because they learned to overcome suffering and turn them a chance to increment their future; they understood that the overcoming of suffering was possible once it had a purpose to their lives, a “fixed-point” that allowed them to seek a reason to live together and individually. They established as fixed points: having a new family; supporting each other in solidarity; adopting someone in their extended family as a person to be attached to; settling down as belonging to this person and to their houses; persevering on faith in God and founding refuge on Church; perceiving school as a possibility to achieve a new and better life; using their own resources learned in social and cultural relationships; reflecting about their humanity in relationship to other people in the circle of life between pain and happiness.